And not too long ago I was wondering the same things. And I was making the hardest decision ever to leave a man I thought was my soulmate, but who turned out to be an emotionally abusive narcissist who had cheated on me with multiple women.  

Before that, I spent 4 years single in a man desert, truly believing that men just didn’t ask me out. Of course, I’d occasionally get so lonely that I’d venture out into the dating world only to attract men who wanted a one-night stand or were totally wrong for me or unavailable.  

4 years prior, my first love, who I thought I’d marry (we already had baby names picked out) had broken up with me, out of the blue, because he said he realized he just “couldn’t make me happy”. I had pushed away a really great man and I had started to believe that I’d never find anybody as good as him.  

Unexpected breakup from a good man. No men asking me out for years on end. Dating jerks, unavailable men and men who wanted sex with me and no more. Dating an emotional abuser and narcissist. I’m sharing this to let you know that I do get you. I know what it’s like to want love so badly but to feel like you’re failing miserably at it.  

And, I also know what it’s like to rise like a Phoenix from the ashes of heartbreak to create love that’s better than your dreams.  

Today, I’m married to an incredible man who treats me like a Queen. We have a beautiful son together and our family is so full of love.